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10 Simple Ways to Say I Love You To Your Spouse

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It’s easy to say “I love you,” but how often do you show your significant other just how much they mean to you?  I’m sharing 10 simple ways that I show my husband how much I love him.


Before my husband, there was only one other person that I’ve ever said “I love you” to.  Now that I know what love truly is, what I felt before doesn’t even come close to what I feel for my husband.  Honestly, what I felt before was merely a case of lust – or something like that.  That relationship was toxic from the very beginning.  It only lasted a few months, but they were tumultuous – an up and down roller coaster of emotions, immaturity, insecurity, and manipulation that should have been shut down at the first sign of derailment. 

But if there’s one thing that I can take away from that previous relationship, it’s how much more I appreciate the love and relationship that I now have with my husband. 

Love isn’t just about saying it.  Like I know now, it’s so easy just to say it.  Love is so much more than that.  It’s also the little ways you show it to one another. Looking back on that past relationship, a lot of those little things were missed and there was a lot of selfishness involved.  I am so freaking grateful for the caring, loving man that I’m sharing the rest of my life with. There’s no one I could love more and every day I try to show him just how much I love and appreciate having him by my side.

10 Simple Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse

 
Say “Thank You”

It seems so simple.  Right?  But a “thank you” can go a long way.  It lets your spouse know that they’re appreciated.  My husband does a lot for me, so I like to make it known that I’m grateful for everything he does.

Start a simple evening tradition

My husband works outside all year ’round.  Since it’s been so cold these past few weeks, we’ve started an evening tradition of having tea together when he comes home from work.  He walks in the door, I turn the kettle on, and we sit and sip together.  It’s just something little that allows us to connect and spend a quiet moment with one another.

Bake them their favorite treat 

This is one of my favorite things to do for my husband!  My husband has a sweet tooth, so I love the look on his face when he comes home to a plate of homemade cookies or his favorite pie!  

….or better yet, plan and cook a meal together!

This is another one of my favorite things to do together!  We’re lucky to have a grocery store just a short walk away from our home.  So we’ll go grab some ingredients and work on a dish together.  It doesn’t happen often (cooking is my jam), but when it does, it’s always fun! 

Snuggle

Let me just channel my inner Elf and say that I love to snuggle!  Snuggling is my favorite!  It’s the best way to keep warm in the winter and I love getting close to my boo! So grab a warm and fuzzy blanket (we love this one) and snuggle up, buttercup!

Laugh at their jokes – even the bad ones

One of the first things I remember my husband telling me is that I had an awesome laugh.  Laughter is a big part of our relationship!  It keeps us smiling and gets out of those not-so-fun times.  So give each other something to laugh about, even if you’re pulling out those dad jokes.  Trust me, we’ll still laugh just to make you happy!

Leave them a note to find when they wake up in the morning

I’m a big fan of leaving notes on the table for my husband to find when he goes to have his bowl of cereal before work in the morning.  If jotting down a love note isn’t your thing, send your significant other a sexy text during the day.  Give them another reason to be excited to come home, if you know what I mean! 

Go for a long walk together

Slip on your walking shoes and take a long stroll together.  We’ve been missing out on this lately since it’s been so frigid outside, but there’s nothing I love more than spending time together.  Get some fresh air, some exercise, and spend a little time walking and talking.  You’ll feel so good afterwards and be thankful for the time together. 

Listen to them – like really listen

Put the phone down and give your boo your full attention.  Do you know how many times I’ll ask my husband about something he’s working on and have no idea what he’s talking about?  A lot!  But I love listening to him explain the projects he’s working on.  Taking interest in the things he’s interested in makes us both happy!  I’ve even learned a thing or two in the process!

Give them a big squeeze

Hug, butt, whatever!  Just saying, a little pinch on the tush never hurt anyone!  And there’s nothing better than the feeling of wrapping your arms around a loved one and having them envelop you in return.

What special way do you say “I love you” to your spouse?

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How to Easily Transition Your Wardrobe for Fall

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Swap out your summer clothes and get your closet ready for cooler weather with these tips to help you easily transition your wardrobe for fall!  Grab Fresh Water Sparkle™ products from Dollar General with the savings above!

 
Fall is my favorite time of year.  I’m definitely in the minority when I say that I actually prefer cold weather to the hot days of summer.  We had our last heatwave of the summer season just a few weeks ago and I cheered when it was over.  It was nice to feel that shift in the air when the humidity dips and cool breeze blows in.  We went from the 90s to the 60s in a matter of days!  It felt amazing to put on yoga pants and an oversized hoodie, and snuggle up under a big blanket!  Of course, in true New Jersey fashion, that weather was just a tease.  The heatwaves may be over for another year, but we still have a few of those upper 80 degree days hanging around.

Besides all of the pumpkins, hayrides, fall foliage, and the chill in the air, one of my favorite things about fall is my wardrobe.  I definitely prefer my cold weather clothes to my summer wardrobe!  I feel like you can get way more creative with outfits when you can layer, mix and match pieces, thrown on a hat, accessorize with scarves, and rock a killer pair of boots!  Despite having a bit of that summer weather linger, I started to transition my wardrobe from summer to fall.


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I devoted a day last week to cleaning out my closet and pulling out some of my fall wardrobe.  There was a lot a laundry about to happen, so I ran to Dollar General to stock up on Gain Fresh Water Sparkle™ products.  It’s an exclusive scent to Dollar General and smells scent-sational! It’s like a splash of Fresh Water Sparkle™ in every load of wash!  I had a lot of laundry to do and wanted to make my clothes #SparkleWithGain, so I grabbed Gain Flings!™ Laundry Detergent Pacs, Gain Fireworks™ In-Wash Scent Booster Beads, Gain Liquid Laundry Detergent and, Gain Dryer Sheets all in the Fresh Water Sparkle™ scent. 

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Are you getting ready to transition your wardrobe over to fall?  Check out some of my tips below to make the process way easier!

Launder your clothes with Gain Fresh Water Sparkle products before storing them away

Before I store my summer clothing away, I like to make sure they’re nice and clean.  #ILoveGain!  Gain Fresh Water Sparkle™ products have become a staple in my home.  Not only does Gain keep my clothes clean, but it smells amazing, too! Gain Fresh Water Sparkle™ products will keep your clothes fresh even when they’re put away for the season!

Keep some summer staples

Don’t rush to put all of your summer clothes away!  I like keeping solid colored tank tops in neutral colors hanging in my closet.  They’re perfect for layering under off-the-shoulder tops and cardigans.  Plus, those t-shirts and tanks come in handy on warmer, fall days and look super cute with jeans and booties!

Layer with jackets, scarves, and cardigans

One of my favorite things about fall clothing is that every outfit is so much fun to layer and accessorize!  I love playing around with jackets or topping off an outfit with a fun scarf or hat.  Layers not only give an outfit an extra boost of style, but they’ll keep you a bit warmer when it’s cold outside!

Donate items you haven’t worn all season

While you’re cleaning out your closet, find some items that you haven’t worn all season.  My rule is that if I haven’t worn it in a year, it gets donated.  This frees up some space in your closet and you’ll do a good deed while you’re at it.  It’s a win-win!


If you’re ready to say “so long” to your summer wardrobe, head to your local Dollar General for the exclusive Fresh Water Sparkle™ line of Gain products!  You can find them where other detergents and cleaning products are sold.

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When do you start putting your summer clothes away?

What I’ve Learned from Blogging

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It’s my eighth blogging anniversary and I’m celebrating by sharing everything (okay, maybe not everything) I’ve learned from blogging during these past eight years!


Tomorrow is my blogging anniversary.  I’ve been blogging for eight years.  EIGHT YEARS!!! What started as a hobby has become a business.  In these past eight years, I’ve learned so much, not only about blogging, but about myself.  Sure, it hasn’t come without its struggles and its thoughts of, “Why am I doing this again?”  But I can’t imagine doing anything else.  Blogging has been the creative outlet I’ve craved for so long and it’s been such an awesome experience.

So today, I wanted to share a few things I’ve learned about blogging these past eight years.  I wanted to share the struggles, the wins – all of it.  Bloggers don’t just take pretty pictures, write up a post, and hit “publish.”  If only it were that easy!  There’s so much more involved.  Through all of the hard work, I’ve learned so much about this crazy industry and, also, myself.

It’s hard work

Oh, you didn’t know?  Yeah, it’s not just about writing down some words, popping in pictures, and hitting “publish.”  Unless you’re doing it for a hobby, don’t expect the money to just fall into your pocket.  You need to work your butt off!  You need to promote, promote, promote.  Share the hell out of your posts, use all the hashtags, and do whatever you can to get on brands’ radars.  

But wait!  First, you have to create your post.  That means, spending time developing ideas, taking photos, editing photos, writing a solid post, getting that SEO in place, and scheduling social shares.  It’s a process, but in the end, the hard work has been so worth it.  Even when it seems like it’s not!

Community

Since the beginning, blogging has given me a sense of community.  I’ve connected with women that are incredible human beings!  The best!  The support and friendships are nothing that I ever experienced sitting behind an office desk.  These girls are killing it with their blogs and social media platforms.  They’ve become inspiration for me and I’m lucky to have found a spot in their circle of friends.

How to say “no”

When I first started working on product reviews, I basically welcomed every opportunity.  I mean, if I didn’t get compensated, not even with product, at least I got exposure.  Right?  WRONG!  I’ve become aware of how many brands think they can sucker bloggers into writing for them for free.  Not cool, guys!

Time is definitely money and I don’t have time to work for free.  Especially when I put a decent amount of work and dedication into each blog post.  And it goes beyond that point because each post makes its way to my social media accounts – every single one!  Free promotion?  I don’t think so!  Guys, it’s totally okay to say “no.”  Pass up those opportunities because there will be better ones!

How to say “yes”

“But, Jess, you just told us to say ‘no.'”  I know.  But now comes the fun part where we grab opportunity by the cojones and run with it!  So, a lot of bloggers say that you shouldn’t work for product.  But if it’s something I’m going to use anyway (Not gonna lie – I love when people send me free food), I’ll make an exception.  Especially if it’s from a brand I’ve been dying to work with!  It’s a great way to develop a relationship with brands and work with them on a continuous basis.  And negotiate.  Aim high so you can negotiate an offer that works for both of you.

Handling rejection

Rejection happens and it sucks.  For instance, a foreign PR company recently e-mailed to use one of my images in press material.  They asked for my rate.  I did some research on what I should charge because, quite honestly, no one’s ever wanted to buy one of my images from me before.  They responded a few days later that it wasn’t in their budget and that was that.

It’s going to happen.  You’re going to pitch brands and they’ll probably throw you some interest.  Then, you’ll start talking dollar signs and things will start to shift.  All of a sudden, your great idea isn’t so great anymore and opportunity slams its door right in your face!  Just keep opening doors because, eventually, there will be a brand behind one of them that wants to work with you!

My worth

I’m ending this post with the biggest lesson I’ve learned from blogging – my worth.  It all goes hand-in-hand with everything I’ve already said.  After so many years, I know what my work is worth.  I know when to say “yes,” when to say “no,” and to be proud of my accomplishments (like those features!).  I’ve come a long way, baby, and I’m going to keep working at it!

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Bloggers, what have you learned from your blogging experience?

How to Infuse Your Water with Essential Oils

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We all know that the adult human body is made up of about 60 percent water.  And we know that we need to keep ourselves hydrated or we’ll dry out and crumble into ashes like vampires exposed to sunlight.  Wait.  What?  That’s not what happens if we don’t drink water?  Okay.  Anyway, it’s hard to get those eight recommended glasses of water into our bodies each day.  Water itself is pretty plain and boring when there are so many other beverages available for us to sip on. 

But what if you concocted a tasty way to consume more water by creating easy, natural water infusions just by using fresh fruit, herbs, and essential oils?  Now we’re talking!

We had quite the summer tease about a week ago.  It was 80 degrees and sunny outside.  So I slathered on the sunscreen and spent a lot of time outdoors.  It’s so important to stay hydrated on hot days.  Especially if you’re staying active!  That’s why I love making flavor infused water.  You can use frozen fruit, fresh fruit, herbs, and even essential oils to infuse your water with a ton of delicious flavor!  


I have become a big fan of Young Living’s Vitality oils.   One of my favorite things about these oils is that you can take them internally.  Just one drop of oil in a glass of water adds big flavor and supports wellness!


My favorite flavor infusion combos:

  • Lemon + Peppermint
  • Citrus Fresh + Basil
  • Thieves + Orange Oil
  • Strawberries + Basil + Lemon
  • Grapefruit + Rosemary 

Mix and match essential oils with fresh fruit and herbs for endless flavor combos!


A few things to consider before adding essential oils to your water:

  1. Essential oils are highly concentrated extractions from plants.  Only pure essential oils (like Young Living) should taken internally, in small quantities.  If you are not comfortable consuming essential oils, you can still create delicious water infusions from fresh fruit and herbs.
  2. Know your oils.  Not every oil is meant to be taken internally.  The ones I have recommend in these infusions are safe to drink with water.
  3. Only drink essential oil infused water from a glass or stainless steel bottle.  Essential oils pull toxins, so it’s not recommended to add essential oils to plastic water bottles.
  4. I also recommend using filtered water.  We keep a filtered water pitcher in the fridge that’s so convenient!


Thank you to some of my fellow Young Living members for contributing this helpful information.  Safety first, guys!

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Have you ever flavored water with essential oils before?



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